The ideal way to communicate, whether at work, at home or with friends is to be straight-forward, honest, caring, reliable and proactive. This is known as being assertive. Even though fear may try and hold you back, when you’re assertive you’ll get to the heart of issues before they grow into disasters. If fear takes over, you’ll find yourself reacting instead of proactively communicating. When this happens your communication style will turn passive, aggressive or passive-aggressive. These styles of communication are the poison that destroys relationships.